In the US, although untrue, the elderly are considered slow
witted, chronically ill, and a drain on society. I am over 70.
An abundance of money, which has been proven not to be a
source of happiness, is still considered a status symbol. I do not have a lot of
money.
Uneducated people are not taken seriously. I do not have a
college degree.
All of these beliefs are untrue, yet by America’s
standards, I am not considered successful and to finish me off, I should not be
happy. Yet, the people I meet have
called me a firecracker, an alligator, fiercely independent and have described me
as whooshing into a room. The most common
description of me? She’s an INSPIRATION.
I can’t explain people’s reactions to me. It is as if a label
were tattooed on my forehead. This curious responses have me baffled. My only
explanation is that I do not fit their expectations.
Sonja Lyubomirsky
a psychologist at the University of California, Riverside proposes that roughly
50 percent of happiness is determined by genes (i.e., totally out of your
control). I am convinced I wasn’t born with happy genes. I fought depression during much of my adult
life.
Roughly 10 percent
of a person’s happiness is determined by circumstance (i.e., somewhat out of
your control). A death or disaster or famine and illness can douse the happy spark.
I have certainly had my share of circumstances and even considered suicide.
The final 40 percent chance at happiness is determined by
your thoughts, actions, and attitudes (i.e., entirely within your control). You
can see why Lyubomirsky titled her research, The 40 Percent Solution.
Wouldn’t it seem that the United States, which celebrates so
much abundance and success, (27
Things Which America Is Ranked Number One) would also have the happiest
people residing within its borders?
But it is not so. America recently ranked 18th in the
U.N.’s “World
Happiness Report,”
So why are so many unhappy?
52 percent of students reported feeling hopeless, while 39
percent suffered from such severe depression.
At the University of Pennsylvania, there’s even a slang
term for the grim mask of discontent that accompanies this condition: “Penn
Face.” We could go further and diagnose a national case of “USA Face,”
Two years ago The New York
Times reported the suicide rate is at a 30 year high and growing.
For middle-aged women, ages
45 to 64, suicide jumped by 63 percent over the period of the study, while it
rose by 43 percent for men in that age range, the sharpest increase for males
of any age. The overall suicide rate rose by 24 percent from 1999 to 2014,
according to the National Center for Health Statistics, which released the study on Friday.
Call to Action
Help someone find their way.
We need to know why.
Here is your chance to make
a difference, There are many in need to hear suggestions from you, my readers
and fans –– your personal suggestions using only the 40% solution.
In other words, how have you
changed your thoughts or attitude in order to become happier?
What actions have you taken that made you happier?
More money or education can
only be your answer if you changed your actions in order to achieve more
money or more education. (Taken a second job to pay for your education or volunteered
in a field of your interest to learn more, etc.)
Do not answer religion.
Instead explain only how it changed your thoughts, your
attitude or your actions. (Because of my religion I began to do, my attitude
changed toward ….? I no longer thought…?)
Take this opportunity to
reach out and help one another. It is
time to begin connecting with one another.
The raindrop never takes responsibility for the
flood.
THE GRIEVING GIFT
Janice’s older sister, Margaret, wanted to believe that the L.A. doctors at Cedars Sinai Medical Center held a magical deck of cards, but after eight years of treatment they dealt their final card. The Hospice card. No miracles for Margaret. Janice reassures her big sister she will be there, holding her hand every step of the way.
On a death watch, you get to know things about a person you wish you didn’t. It is like a roller coaster ride. And like most rides, it brings us back to the place we began, reminding us of who we were and who we have become.
The twists and turns of Janice’s emotional journey transports her back through the repercussions of her teen pregnancy and into the present estrangement from her daughter, whom she has not heard from for the last sixteen years.
Coming to terms with the grief of losing her sweet Margaret, and dealing with her fear of a lonely future is too much for Janice to imagine. When Margaret’s soul goes to rest in L.A. heaven, how will Janice face the emptiness? Will there be such a thing as a Grieving Gift?
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
The death of Judy Howard’s husband gave the author a wake up call. Life is short. Howard sold her pet grooming business, which she had operated since the age of eleven and engaged full throttle into her new passions of writing and traveling.
Judy Howard’s writing career expands across many genres, including memoir, romantic mystery, reality fiction, travel and young adult, and now with THE GRIEVING GIFT, an autobiographical novel.
In all of Howard’s books the theme is always the same - overcoming life’s difficulties.
Judy lives full-time in her Winnebago motorhome with her cat, Sportster, traveling across the country as a motivational speaker and offering writing seminars.
When Judy and Sportster are not traveling, they spend their time in Sun City, California.
Oh, and don’t forget!! Readers’ reviews keep writers motivated.
USEFUL LINKS
Judy's Blog: The Adventures Of An RV Widow
Sportster's Blog: The Cat's Perspective Of Reading, Writing And Life
Click on the link below to find out more about Judy's books.
Safe travels!
CONTACT JUDY HOWARD
jhoward1935@gmail.com
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